‘Loose’ – A poem about a woman’s expression and desires
…In the poem “Loose”, Daphine Arinda satirizes the term used to describe women who are comfortable expressing their sexual desires. A woman who dresses sexy, dances wildly, enjoys sexual encounters is labelled “loose”. She is more of a threat because she does this for herself. Arinda claims this word for a positive use, aligning it to its other meaning, one akin to freedom. The woman in this poem becomes one who is free to enjoy her sexuality, saying, “But dignity and self-respect are MINE/ mine to lose.”
“Loose” is a mockery of the offensive term ‘loose’ which is assigned to women who are liberal in the way they express their sexuality either through relationships with men, through art or through social activities like dance.
LOOSE I live loosely Mind open Heart open I have no rules On how to love Who to love What to write What to hide How to dance With whom to dance. At the bar I choose men loosely Men whose faces I forget Men whose numbers I erase Men whose rhythm I’ll recall Can his feet follow the beat? Can his ribs break off his back? I’ll rub up his crotch Touch his chest We’ll loosely share our bodies in dance. I am loose. I am not a box of stone I am loose I write loosely I dance loosely I love loosely I’m smoke, smoldering at the stick’s end in the dark night. I’m wings, reaching for the sky with each puff I am free. “She’s loose She’s loose She’s loose….” Whispers like the wind will pass But dignity and self-respect are MINE, Mine to lose not a man’s to take.